Keep Trusting

 Have you ever had the experience of one moment feeling like you knew where you were heading and what you were looking for, only to be suddenly surrounded by doubt and questions?  Almost like walking into a room and suddenly forgetting why you were there.  That unsettling sensation of not being sure of the whats and whys, with the only sure thing being the fact that you are where you are.  

I have often found myself in these types of situations or mindsets, where I have gone from being so sure of things in one moment to completely unraveled in the next.  Often this uncertainty has led to anxious thoughts and feelings of failure or frustration, almost as if I am to blame for this change of mind or heart.  What I have been learning is that these moments of two steps back are just a part of the learning cycle and are integral to actually moving ahead.  Taking the blame out of these pauses or reframes and allowing them to bring new focus to our aim is actually incredibly helpful. 

Imagine the opposite, and I will illustrate from vast experience.  You make a decision on a direction or desire that you wish to pursue.  With that outcome in mind you chart a course or plan and then strap on your blinders very snugly.  From there you put your head down and put the plan into action.  You do not stop for anything that might get in the way or slow you down.  You push hard against anything that you feel is holding you back and you ignore any outside signs or signals that maybe, just maybe, you should take a break, take a breath and re-evaluate where you are.  Finally you arrive at the final destination, often quite exhausted and depleted, but clinging to the end prize.  From experience I can share that the satisfaction received from achieving the goal you had in mind is never really what you had expected, and often is quite anti-climactic.

To combat this in my own life, I have started to allow those pauses to take place and allow them a positive space to exist within.  No judgement about my inability to achieve or problematic planning.  Instead a mindset of trust - both in myself and in the belief that what is meant for me will come to me.  I do not need to force or manipulate situations in order to have the outcome I think I need.  Instead, I can take these moments as a chance to put my head up, look around, see where and I am and how I'm feeling about where I find myself.  From there I can decide if this still feels like the right next step for me and if so I can allow myself to carry on.  If things are feeling out of alignment, it becomes an opportunity to become still and honestly evaluate what is taking place for me.  

Keep trusting in yourself and your inner truth and let those be the guides that move you forward.  Our inner voice can be quiet sometimes and the more we start to lean in and listen, the louder this inner wisdom becomes.

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